IS THIS A RELATIONSHIP?/ALMOST RELATIONSHIP

Are you caught in an emotional limbo?Ever experienced the awkwardness of explaining to your friends that your relationship is not exactly one?Are you familiar with these terms,"seeing","talking" or just "hanging out".You are not alone,we've all been there and we asked the same question you are asking..."is this a relationship?".Sorry dear,its not..it is called ALMOST relationship.

Almost relationship feels,looks and sounds like a relationship but it's not one.It is a relationship that is out of reach which will never be reached.Hope,fantasy and possibilities are the foundation on which almost relationship is built.It's a long chain of questions...why did they make me fall for them and  then decide not to catch me?what did I do wrong?why did they stop replying my messages?Is it over between us?

In almost relationship, your imagination  reigns supreme,you imagine all the things that could've,would've,should've happen IF......
Some of the things that comes with an Almost Relationship are as follows:

• They criticize you and try to modify you:Your partner will criticize you till you  lose sense of all you have and focus on all the the things you lack.You are their source of self esteem,you give them relevance.You honestly believed that  they are these amazing people you imagined.Because of the crazy idea of what you could have with this "imagined" amazing person,you will change yourself to suit and appease them.
• They can't take responsibility:They are not ready to go an inch deeper than they already did and they cannot take responsibility for the ways their actions may be harming you.They cannot commit to you,they want intimacy while holding their freedom.The intentionally refused to label the relationship in order to have freedom to do anything,they don't expect anyone to get hurt because they didn't promise you anything.
• There is a lot of confusion,blurry lines,games,and their fickleness will make you doubt your reality.You are constantly trying to prove to them that you deserve them.
• No healthy communication:The talk about their self and make zero effort to get to know you.They talk down on you,berate you and get angry  at your feedback.
• There is no closure:You cannot tell when your almost relationship is over,when your partner is busy,when they need space.The will stop talking to you,calling and replying your text, There is nothing you could've done differently to prevent all that.After some weeks or months,they may call you or send a text.And the whole thing will repeat itself over and over again.The more you keep on looking answers and ways to make it work,the longer you will be trapped in that emotional limbo.

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